I have friends with kids and friends without. I also have friends who are and aren't married. Proof you can have friends in different lifestyles. Just because you have kids doesn't mean your friendships should end. It makes it a little bit more complicated but if you're really friends, you'll figure it out. They'll be understanding when you can't make it cause the baby is sick and you'll understand when they already made plans with someone else.
I had Jaidyn at 19. I had just got out of high school, married my husband, and had a baby before 20. Its hard when you have to miss out on the late night partying and being carefree but I had several friends who stuck around and had my back. They would come over and hang out or go to the mall with me and my baby. They also didn't treat me any differently. We're still friends and I don't think that will ever change.
We still get out of the house. When Jaidyn was a baby, I took him EVERYWHERE. It was awesome though cause he got used to sleeping wherever and he was one of my easiest babies. I wasn't afraid to be loud around him and we didn't walk on our tiptoes when he was sleeping. It was so nice being able to go to movies, dinner, bowling, and whatever else with other people. It got us out of the house and made me feel like a person still. Not someone who was chained to the house because I had a kid.We still do that with 3 kids. We will go walk around Walmart for the heck of it. Or even just go to the Mall and window shop. We can take all of our kids to restaurants and movies. We do get out of the house and its not just to do what the kids want. Another proof that kids don't always change everything.
You have kids, so you can't drink...I laugh in your face! Seriously. I do not get drunk but I do drink. My husband drinks too. We're just more responsible about it. If one person wants to get a little tipsy, the other won't drink or will just have a little bit. I'm 25. I deserve to be able to drink too. We may not do the club scene, but we still get to have a good time.
Now the fun topic. A lot of people will tell you their sex life's diminish after having kids. Maybe so for some people but not every one. Zach and I have sex at least once a day. Every day. If its during the day and we're horny, we'll just make the kids play in the playroom for a bit. We actually have a very kinky sex life. We make it work and the kids don't hinder it. And again, obviously, we have 3 kids.
The point is that they don't stop your life. Kids are not some evil creature that come and destroy your social life..Your priorities change but it doesn't change everything. Just because you have kids does not mean they will destroy your marriage. I think they've brought us closer. For those who are scared having kids are going to mess up everything, its probably not half as bad as you think ;)
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