I told Zach before we even started trying that this round had to be different. We've had 3 kids and its still like a learning process every time.
We decided to start trying again around September. Jaidyn and Ryker are 18 months apart and we want Matteo to be close to a sibling too. Matteo is 2 years apart from Ryker and you can tell its more of a strain then it was with the first two.
Anyway, Zach's typically the one begging for another one (believe it or not). This time, I told him I was setting some ground rules. This is more then likely going to be our last baby or our last one for a while and I want it to go perfectly. Yeah, like that's going to happen but I'm still going to try. We decided we're not tying the tubes or snipping other parts so if we have more we do but I think this is the last one we're trying for. Plus, we really want to adopt so we have to save some room for that ;)
I am currently breastfeeding which makes it a little more difficult to ovulate or have regular monthly goodness patterns. My period was coming every two weeks so I started taking vitex and vitamin B. Supposedly they're both supposed to help. I started that in Dec so we'll see how it goes. We got pregnant with Jaidyn in 3/4 months, Ryker in about 2/3 months, and Matteo the first try.
This next baby I do want a midwife and I may try to get one of my friends to brave the delivery room with me. We'll see. I would love a home birth but if you've seen my apt, you'd know its TINY and you can hear EVERYTHING through the walls. Hopefully we'll be out of here once our lease is up but until we move, it would have to be a hospital birth or if there was a birthing place. Hoping we'd be back in Colorado for the birth anyway.
Ahhh....Anyway, Zach is awesome and he is pretty good about helping me out and supporting me. This is more of a "you signed it so I can shove it in your face later if you don't follow it". Eh, it works for me and he signed it :D Here is the contract...
Pregnancy Contract -
1) I will support you in every way possible. Example: cravings, late night ramblings, mood swings, etc.
2) I will overcome my "man-ness" and be girly with you when it comes to baby shopping/decorating the room
3) I will treat this pregnancy like a whole new pregnancy/baby no matter the gender. Example: New things
4) I will hold in my disappointment if not the gender I wanted and continue to be excited.
5) Even you play "superhero" I will still offer to help or give you a break even if you don't ask.
6) I will plan date nights/outings so we're not stuck in the house.
7) I will not ditch you unless you give me full permission.
8) When I come home from work, I will help you out with the kids and pay attention to them till bed.
9) I will take 1 month paternity leave
10) I will continue to love and pay attention to the other kids.
11) I will work out with you by doing yoga, walking, or biking.
12) I will not show my disappointment when you say no to sex.
13) I will take maternity photos for you or with you.
14) I will give you money for new maternity clothes
15) I will help out with the dog/cat. Example: litter box
16) I will help get Jaidyn to school when you can't drive.
17) I will find someone to help you out if it gets too hard to deal with everyone during pregnancy.
18) I will take care of meals unless you already have.
19) I will support you in every way possible during birth and I will find a babysitter before hand. Example: Our parents/friend
*I understand that if I fail to follow this, I will not be allowed in the delivery room and this will be our last kid.
Signed X______________________
*Rules subject to change if more are thought of.
PS - We are NOT pregnant yet but we're in the "hoping it happens" phase.
My three little Monsters :D
We decided to start trying again around September. Jaidyn and Ryker are 18 months apart and we want Matteo to be close to a sibling too. Matteo is 2 years apart from Ryker and you can tell its more of a strain then it was with the first two.
Anyway, Zach's typically the one begging for another one (believe it or not). This time, I told him I was setting some ground rules. This is more then likely going to be our last baby or our last one for a while and I want it to go perfectly. Yeah, like that's going to happen but I'm still going to try. We decided we're not tying the tubes or snipping other parts so if we have more we do but I think this is the last one we're trying for. Plus, we really want to adopt so we have to save some room for that ;)
I am currently breastfeeding which makes it a little more difficult to ovulate or have regular monthly goodness patterns. My period was coming every two weeks so I started taking vitex and vitamin B. Supposedly they're both supposed to help. I started that in Dec so we'll see how it goes. We got pregnant with Jaidyn in 3/4 months, Ryker in about 2/3 months, and Matteo the first try.
This next baby I do want a midwife and I may try to get one of my friends to brave the delivery room with me. We'll see. I would love a home birth but if you've seen my apt, you'd know its TINY and you can hear EVERYTHING through the walls. Hopefully we'll be out of here once our lease is up but until we move, it would have to be a hospital birth or if there was a birthing place. Hoping we'd be back in Colorado for the birth anyway.
Ahhh....Anyway, Zach is awesome and he is pretty good about helping me out and supporting me. This is more of a "you signed it so I can shove it in your face later if you don't follow it". Eh, it works for me and he signed it :D Here is the contract...
Pregnancy Contract -
1) I will support you in every way possible. Example: cravings, late night ramblings, mood swings, etc.
2) I will overcome my "man-ness" and be girly with you when it comes to baby shopping/decorating the room
3) I will treat this pregnancy like a whole new pregnancy/baby no matter the gender. Example: New things
4) I will hold in my disappointment if not the gender I wanted and continue to be excited.
5) Even you play "superhero" I will still offer to help or give you a break even if you don't ask.
6) I will plan date nights/outings so we're not stuck in the house.
7) I will not ditch you unless you give me full permission.
8) When I come home from work, I will help you out with the kids and pay attention to them till bed.
9) I will take 1 month paternity leave
10) I will continue to love and pay attention to the other kids.
11) I will work out with you by doing yoga, walking, or biking.
12) I will not show my disappointment when you say no to sex.
13) I will take maternity photos for you or with you.
14) I will give you money for new maternity clothes
15) I will help out with the dog/cat. Example: litter box
16) I will help get Jaidyn to school when you can't drive.
17) I will find someone to help you out if it gets too hard to deal with everyone during pregnancy.
18) I will take care of meals unless you already have.
19) I will support you in every way possible during birth and I will find a babysitter before hand. Example: Our parents/friend
*I understand that if I fail to follow this, I will not be allowed in the delivery room and this will be our last kid.
Signed X______________________
*Rules subject to change if more are thought of.
PS - We are NOT pregnant yet but we're in the "hoping it happens" phase.
My three little Monsters :D
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lol very cute. i think it great that you want to try again. i am not sure if we ever will or not, but i hope we will. We just want to make sure we can afford to give them the life we want for them. (Vacations, extras, etc). Maybe by the time Ben is 2 or 3 we will be ready again. I know you said you want them close in age but I gotta say Ryan has been great with Ben and they are three years apart. Have fun trying lol and good luck! I'll be crossing my fingers for that girl, but if its another boy, he is still a wonderful blessing that will be loved!
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